Here are some tips for making self-care a part of your daily routine. Don’t worry, it doesn’t involve having to get up at 5am and do 10 things before breakfast! Many health and wellness “gurus” speak of their morning routine, which can actually make people feel worse about themselves.
I cannot stress the importance of making yourself a priority, especially when faced with serious illness. It’s these times when our bodies are trying to tell us something. If we don’t pay attention and slow down, it will keep sending us messages until we do.
5 things you can do to ensure self-care is part of your day
1) Get rid of the guilt
You are a human being. You are deserving of time that is just for you. We are not our ancestors, who didn’t have the capacity or ability to think outside of basic needs and survival. We are living in a different time, that demands self-care to keep us sane. Our ancestors didn’t have work and school pick up to juggle, as well as a thousand stimulation points across technology each day demanding our attention. You are allowed to want your own time amongst the craziness.
2) Ask for help:
We don’t have to do life on our own. Yes, women are extremely good at multitasking compared to men but that doesn’t mean we need to carry the load by ourselves. Have an open, honest conversation with your partner or extended family members about how you are feeling. The number of times I have heard the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child” yet we put the pressure on ourselves to be everything to everyone. Use your village effectively. Asking for help does not make you weak, it makes you smart at managing your time.
3) Make an appointment with yourself:
How great are we at turning up to appointments mapped out by others, whether it be health, work or child related, yet we never commit to a time for ourselves? We think, “I couldn’t possibly do that, what if something comes up?” Even if it’s 15 minutes, make the time in your diary for self-care and set a reminder. Show that you matter to yourself.
4) Start small:
We know that time is scarce, so don’t put pressure to have multiple hours of self-care per day if that is currently unrealistic. Start with the 15-minute appointment and go from there. If you start with the full hour, you may be quickly disheartened when it doesn’t eventuate. Asking for help as mentioned in point 1, will allow you to find more time gradually.
5) Redefine Self Care:
Self-care is different for everyone, but what does it mean to you? There are no rules on how to achieve it. The only thing that matters is doing something that connects you back to your power, your energy, the essence of who you are. This could be during a yoga class, a beach walk, reading your favourite trashy magazine, or sitting still for a few moments over a cup of coffee. It takes many forms, but what feels best to you?
If you want to explore current self-care in your life, write down a MORE and LESS list. What would you like to bring into your life and do more of? What are some things that you need to pull back from or do less of? This is a great way to take stock of where your time and energy is being invested.
Written by, Melissa Wood | Life Coach & Reiki Practitioner | Time To Exhale